Sexual Orientation Confusion

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Sexual orientation is believed to be a result of a mix of hereditary, cognitive, and biological factors that influence how we view our sexuality. Heterosexuality has been the main sexual orientation for humans throughout the centuries, but today, more and more people are embracing the possibility of being attracted to the same sex and engaging in sexual activities with people in the same sex. This practice is also gaining acceptance by the larger community, although some religious groups still condemn homosexuality as a sin. Confusion about sexual orientation doesn't mean that a person is gay. A lot of people go through stages of confusion, but eventually settle in the sexual orientation where they are most comfortable with.

What to do when sexual orientation confusion arises

Experts advise that to determine what your sexual orientation is, look at your past experiences, if there are any involving same-sex partners, and see how you felt during these experiences. Look at your feelings toward friends of the same sex, if you have ever felt an attraction toward the opposite sex. Some may advise to compare your desire for the two sexes and see which weighs more. Therapy is a good way to solve the confusion, especially for those who have no one to talk to about issues such as these. A good therapist will help you figure out where your orientation lies by asking you helpful questions.

Problems

Confusion about ones sexual orientation can lead to several problems, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. Those who come from traditional upbringing may feel ashamed about the sexual confusion and may repress their urges instead of seeking help. There are those who enter into relationships with the opposite sex in an attempt to repress urges for the same sex. This can damage the person who is confused and his or her heterosexual partner as well.

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